How ADHD Affects Relationship with Your Partner?

July 23, 2021
ADHD and Relationships


ADHD presents a unique set of challenges that may make a romantic relationship difficult. While it may be fun and spontaneous, it may also be challenging and intense. Fortunately, you can manage ADHD with proper treatment and support. If you are in a relationship where you or your partner has ADHD, understanding its impact can help you steer your relationship in the right direction.

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Read on to understand more about ADHD and relationships and how you can achieve a healthy relationship with your partner.


Symptoms of ADHD that Can Affect Your Relationship

Knowing ADHD symptoms that can affect your relationship gives you the scope of your partner’s behavior. It also allows you to connect your partner’s behavior and the condition. Below are the symptoms of ADHD that can cause relationship problems:

  • Impulsivity and risky behavior
  • Poor organization skills
  • Inability to pay attention
  • Emotional outbursts
  • Forgetfulness and lateness
  • Trouble following instructions or directions
  • Easily bored

By understanding symptoms of ADHD that can cause relationship problems, you will be in a better position to manage them.


How ADHD Affects Your Relationship with Your Partner?

If you are in a relationship where one partner has ADHD, you may experience frequent misunderstandings and frustrations due to the symptoms. It usually occurs if the condition is undiagnosed or under-managed. To help you understand the role of ADHD in adult relationships, below are a few ways that ADHD can affect your relationship:

1. Hyperfocus Dating

Hyperfocus dating occurs when the partner with ADHD makes the other party a center of their world during the early stages of dating and relationships. However, due to ADHD, this does not last long. When hyperfocus stops and the relationship progresses, the ADHD partner shifts their attention elsewhere.

Doing so may make the non-ADHD partner feel ignored, uncared for, or unloved as they don’t get the initial treatment and attention as when the relationship started. Also, a person with ADHD won’t notice that they stopped paying attention to their partner or the main aspects of the relationship. 


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2. Parent-Child Dynamics

One of the significant effects of ADHD is one party feeling like they have to take care of the ADHD partner, bringing in the parent-child dynamics. The ADHD partner becomes the irresponsible child in the relationship, while the non-ADHD partner becomes the responsible parent. These dynamics can be destructive as the ADHD partner feels caged and controlled while the other partner feels overwhelmed due to taking care of everything. 

3. Constant Arguments

Individuals with ADHD are impulsive and have emotional outbursts often. As a result, they may end up making comments without considering other people’s feelings leading to arguments. Arguments may also result from unmet expectations and disagreements due to the partner’s forgetfulness, disorganization, and impulsive decisions. With constant squabbles and emotional outbursts, it may be challenging to discuss issues with your partner.

4. Misinterpretation of Symptoms

Symptom misinterpretation is frequent in a relationship where one partner has ADHD. It usually occurs when you assume that you both know each other well. Therefore, when a partner with ADHD acts in a certain way, such as not paying attention to the person they love, it may come off as being uncaring. Misinterpreting ADHD symptoms may cause a blame game where the partner with ADHD appears to be the sole cause of your relationship problems.

Another way that ADHD can affect your relations is jeopardizing decision-making due to impulsivity. It may also result in uneven sharing of house chores and tasks as the ADHD partner may not always accomplish their responsibilities. However, once you notice the patterns of behavior and link them to the condition, it becomes easy to work on your relationship.

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Sexual Relationships: Does ADHD Cause Hypersexuality? 

ADHD can affect your sex life as it may lead to a low sex drive or hypersexuality. In the case of a low sex drive, you may end up with a low-sex relationship which may interfere with your intimacy. If you have ADHD, your partner may feel you are not interested in them when your mind keeps wandering during sex or cuddling.

On the other hand, a hypersexual partner may lead to a fun and adventurous sex life. However, it may also result in risky sexual behaviors such as cheating due to impulsivity. A mismatch of sex drive or risky sexual behaviors like cheating can result in relationship problems.


Is It Hard to Date Someone with ADHD?

While ADHD can affect your relationship negatively if it is under-managed, you can still achieve a healthy relationship while dating someone with ADHD. Most times, relationship problems occur due to misunderstandings caused by the response of both partners to symptoms of ADHD.

However, you can enjoy a smooth relationship by making a mutual effort to increase understanding in your relationship. Doing so allows you and your partner to handle your relationship dynamics appropriately and foster a smooth and healthy relationship.


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Important Things in a Relationship


Tips for Increasing Understanding in Your Relationship

You can cultivate a healthy relationship after understanding the role of ADHD in adult relationships. Below are a few tips for increasing understanding in your relationship:

  • Educate Yourself about ADHD

The first step to achieving more understanding in your relationship is educating yourself about ADHD. Knowing how the condition manifests itself in adults will help you deal with your relationship situations differently. Not only will you identify the root cause of your partner’s behaviors, but you will also adjust your responses. You can then adopt effective ways of making your relationship work.

  • Communicate with Your Partner

While you may experience a communication breakdown due to ADHD, improving communication skills when you have ADHD can help foster understanding in your relationship. You can do this by talking to one another face-to-face as much as possible, using “I” statements to avoid the blame game, and listening to your partner. Also, avoid having discussions when emotions are high. With proper communication, you can deal with underlying causes and foster understanding in your relationship.

  • Focus on the Positives of Your Relationship

Think about what made you fall in love with your partner, and try to do the things you used to when you first started dating. Also, instead of focusing on your partner’s shortcomings, look at their strengths and encourage them without making them feel awful. While ADHD may hurt our relationship, most people with the condition also exhibit positive traits such as positivity, openness, resilience, empathy, and sociability.

  • Show Empathy

Understand that ADHD can affect your relationship regardless of who has it. If you have the condition, you should empathize with your partner and understand how the illness affects your relationship. If your partner has ADHD, try and appreciate how difficult living with the disorder is. Also, separate your partner’s individuality from the condition. Doing so will allow you to work on your relationship with mutual effort and enhance your understanding.

  • Seek Treatment and Support

The best way to find a lasting solution to ADHD is to get help. Seek professional treatment once you notice the symptoms to ensure you deal with the condition early in the relationship. Doing so helps you manage the symptoms and minimize ADHD’s negative impacts on your relationship. Besides getting treatment for ADHD, you should also consider couples therapy to help you go past your relationship problems and rebuild a happy and healthy relationship with your partner.

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ADHD can have an enormous impact on your relationship. However, you can manage the condition with professional treatment. If you or your partner has ADHD or exhibits the symptoms, Mango Clinic offers reliable ADHD treatment options. Contact us today and let us help you restore your mental health and improve your relationship or click the banner below to book your appointment.


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